Relationships can be fun. But they can also suck if you’re in the wrong one. And from my personal experience as well as others, being in an unhealthy relationship happens far too often. Lucky for you, I’m here to help you determine whether you should work on your relationship, or cut ties completely…
You don’t have trust in your partner
Trust comes in at number 1 for me. I’ve learned over the years that trusting in your partner is crucial for a successful relationship. If either one of you doesn’t trust the other person, it’s time to leave and make a change. If your partner is constantly accusing you of flirting with other people or cheating on them, then that is a sign of extreme insecurity. And as harsh as this may sound, you don’t need that in your life. This type of behavior can cause extreme resentment, which leads to fighting, which leads to more false accusations, and the cycle continues. If you are experiencing this in your current relationship, I would highly suggest you run for the hills.
You can’t be yourself
Relationships are meant to help you grow as an individual, and eventually as a couple. If you are feeling stifled by your partner because they want you to act a certain way or believe in certain things, then you are not being true to yourself and you need to re-evaluate your relationship. I’m not saying you shouldn’t compromise with your partner. I’m saying you shouldn’t stop being who you truly are just to please the other person. Trust me, if the person really loves you, they will be encouraging you to do the things that make you happy.
Lack of intimacy
Let’s face it, intimacy plays a huge role in a romantic relationship. If you don’t have that, then you’re basically just two people who binge watch Netflix and occasionally eat dinner together. Intimacy, however, means more than just kissing, holding hands, etc. It also means spending quality time together, outside of the bedroom. It is important to do things with your partner that you both enjoy, and have a good time while doing it. Whether you go for a bike ride or embark on a shopping spree, spending that quality time together strengthens your relationship and will ultimately keep you both happy.
You fight all the time
We all know that fights happen when you’re in a relationship. In fact, it’s actually healthy to fight with your partner from time to time. The problem, however, arises when you find yourself in a fight more often than not. If the fighting becomes physically or mentally abusive, you need to end the relationship immediately. Unfortunately, things are not going to get better, and you deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship.
You fantasize about other people
It’s normal to find other people attractive. It’s normal to talk to your girlfriends about how hot Ryan Reynolds looked on the Red Carpet last night. It’s not normal, however, to constantly fantasize about what your life would be like with another person, or how much fun it would be to be single. If you find yourself doing that, then something isn’t right. If you are truly happy in your relationship, the only person you will be thinking about is your partner. If you find yourself in this position, you should end the relationship before you end up doing something you will regret.
A Piece of Advice
Never settle for somebody because you are too afraid to break their heart. You need to make yourself happy first. You come first. Always.