Jealousy is a crazy feeling, and let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. I would argue that jealousy never really goes away, however, the way in which you handle your jealousy plays a large role in your happiness. To put it simply, if you’re in a serious relationship and cannot get over your jealous ways, your relationship is doomed…
Don’t Act On Your Feelings
Easier said than done, I know. However, you cannot let the way you are feeling consume you. We all know that we cant help the way we feel, and that’s OK. However, screaming at your partner, accusing them of cheating, physically fighting with them, etc. is NOT the way to go. Dial down the crazy, and remember that your partner is human. He is going to interact with people of the opposite sex, and that’s just life. There’s a reason why they are in an intimate relationship with you. If they wanted to date other people, or go back to their ex, they would have done so. So, the next time you’re feeling jealous, remind yourself that you’re awesome. And that girl you think he’s flirting with? She will be nothing to him but a distant memory…
Express Your Jealousy In A Mature Way
We all know we start seeing red when our partner glances at someone else. We automatically assume he wants to sleep with that person, and we start to panic thinking he will leave us and we will die alone… just me? Haha, on a serious note… it’s incredibly important to communicate your feelings to your partner. He’s not a mind reader, and 9 times out of 10 he doesn’t even realize what he’s doing. Explain to him why you’re feeling jealous. If he’s a good boyfriend, he will assure you that there is nothing to worry about. And as difficult as it may be sometimes, you HAVE to trust him. If he’s a jerk, he’ll probably start accusing you of cheating and make you regret ever bringing it up in the first place.. If you experience the latter, kick him to the curb.
Move On From Your Past
We’ve all had our hearts broken at some point in our lives, and believe me, I know how much that sucks. Maybe you were cheated on, or maybe they left you for someone else. Whatever the case may be, that terrible experience is part of your past, and you can’t keep dwelling on it. You also can’t blame your boyfriend for what has happened to you before you met him, or for what he has done before he met you. Just because your ex cheated on you, doesn’t mean your current boyfriend has the same intentions. The person you are with now is not your ex (thank God)!
Many times the reason for our jealousy stems from our own insecurities. We tend to think that we are not good enough, our partner will realize this, and will leave us for someone else. This is where you need to work on yourself and work on building up your self esteem. I mean, your partner didn’t decide to be with you because you’re a total loser… They chose to be with you because of all of your positive qualities. Always remember that!
Trust Your Partner
And last but certainly not least… trust your partner! You have to trust your partner, because you really have no other choice if you want the relationship to be a happy and healthy one. You can’t control who they talk to, who they look at, who they hang out with, etc. Unless of course he’s out gallivanting with his ex girlfriend or a stripper… What I mean is, he is his own person, and just like you, he deserves to be able to make his own decisions. And when it comes down to it, if he’s the right person, he would never do anything to jeopardize your relationship.
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