Moving in together is a huge step in a relationship. It can be scary and overwhelming, but also really exciting! So how do you know if you and your significant other are ready? Well, every relationship is different, so I’ve come up with 5 questions you should be asking yourself before you take the plunge.
Do You See A Future Together?
I know this may seem pretty obvious, but it’s important to ask yourself this question. Not only is it extremely important to ask yourself this question, but it’s also incredibly important to answer the question honestly. It can be difficult to accept that you and your significant other may not have a future together. Maybe you have different beliefs on religion that you can’t seem to overcome, or maybe you want to live close to your parents while they want to move to a brand new city. These are all things you need to address before shacking up together.
Do You Fight Often?
I briefly addressed this topic in a previous blog post. However, this is a really important question to ask yourself. It’s completely normal to have arguments. After all, you are two individuals with differing opinions and interests; how could you not have disagreements? What’s really important is how often you fight, the severity of the fights, and how/if you overcome them. I’ve been in relationships where the fighting was constant. If there was one thing I could rely on in our relationship, it was the fact that we would have a blowout fight every time we saw each other. This was incredibly unhealthy for our relationship, and proved that we were not meant to be together for the long run.
Are You Both Financially Stable?
I think everyone knows that in order to move out of your parents house, you need money. If you’re thinking of moving in with your significant other, it’s important to make sure that both of you can contribute to the rent or mortgage payments. I’m not saying that you both need to be in the same exact financial situation. More likely than not, one of you will be making more or have more saved up than the other. That’s OK. What you want to make sure is that you aren’t relying solely on your significant other and vice versa. There needs to be a healthy compromise. Maybe your significant other makes more than you, so they pay most of the rent and you’re responsible for other things like groceries and utilities. However you work it out, make sure both parties agree before you move in together.
Have You Traveled Together?
If you haven’t traveled together, then you probably don’t know each other’s habits. Try spending a week together whether it be a Carribean vacation or a cabin in the woods. If you actually enjoy yourselves, that may be a sign that you’re compatible. If you can deal with his neglect to put the toilet seat back down and he doesn’t mind you blaring the music while you get ready, then I’d say you’re off to a pretty good start! I know it may seem silly, but a vacation is sort of like a mini-living-together opportunity. And on the other hand, if you can’t stand the person after your little getaway, you should probably hold off on the big move.
Do You Ignore Problems?
As I mentioned earlier in this post, fighting is inevitable in any relationship. However, the fighting shouldn’t be on a weekly, or even worse, daily basis. It’s also not healthy if you don’t fight at all. That most likely means that you’re holding back feelings of anger and pushing any problems you might have under the rug. And this can only lead to one thing: disaster. Communication is key in a relationship, and I never realized how important it was to communicate until I started dating my current boyfriend. If you ignore your problems, someone is going to end up sleeping on the couch…
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