Work… We all have to do it. Some jobs are better than others. Some jobs pay really well and some jobs don’t. Some involve sitting at a desk from 9-5 and some require you to travel the globe. Today’s post is for all you lovely ladies that hold down the fort while your man is traveling on business. I never thought I’d be one of those ladies, but 26 years later, here I am! I don’t hate it. Having a significant other that travels has its benefits. But it also has its drawbacks. I guess that goes for a lot of things in life, though. Anyway, I’m going to share 5 of my best tips for maintaining a healthy relationship while he’s on the road…or in a plane…
Nobody wants to be that crazy girlfriend, constantly checking in to see where he is and what he’s doing. That can be quite frustrating for him, as he’s probably very busy getting from one place to the next and working in between all of that. However, it’s good to set expectations beforehand, and communication is key when it comes to being apart from each other. Maybe you ask that he give you a call when he gets to his hotel each night, that way you know he made it there safely (that’s always my biggest concern)! Little things like that will help you feel at ease and allow you to sleep at night!
Know The End Date
Odds are, you’re going to know when his trip is over and when he will finally be headed home. If he tells you he’s not sure when he will be back, I’d suggest leaving him because he’s probably cheating on you. Sorry that was harsh, but come on! If he’s traveling for work, he probably has a schedule that shows all of his meetings, his flights, etc. Knowing when he will be home gives you something to look forward to, and maybe you can plan a nice dinner for when he arrives (wow, I sound like a wife from the 50’s). Scratch that, maybe you can meet him at the bar and catch up on his trip (that sounds better).
Let Him Know That You Miss Him
Just remember that as tough as it can be for you, it’s equally as tough for him. After all, he’s there to work, not to vacation. Traveling can be very stressful and tiring, so letting him know that he’s on your mind is a great way to keep the relationship strong and healthy.
Focus On Yourself
It’s easy to get caught up in feeling sorry for yourself when your boyfriend or husband is traveling for work. Instead of focusing on the fact that he’s not around, try to focus on yourself. Do the things that you love. Maybe that’s baking or reading a book. Or maybe it’s going to the gym or getting together with your girlfriends. Whatever it is, make sure you take the time to do it. Don’t sit around waiting for him to come home. You will drive yourself crazy!
Having trust is incredibly important in any relationship, not just relationships where one person travels often. With that being said, it’s so much easier to deal with the absence of your significant other if you have trust in him. I know we’ve all thought crazy things at one point or another like, “I wonder what he’s going to be doing?” “Do you think there will be a lot of girls around?” “He will probably meet some hot corporate girl and leave me.” “Why hasn’t he responded to my text?” All I have to say about this is, calm down… If you have trouble trusting your boyfriend, there may be some deeper rooted issues you should address. I have a whole blog post dedicated to the topic of jealousy. Check it out here.
I wanted to share my take on this subject because I know there are thousands of other women dealing with similar situations. I hope these tips were helpful! And remember, you’re a bad ass independent woman who don’t need no man! Haha. I’ve always wanted to say that.
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