Some couples get married young and others decide to wait. Everyone is different, so there’s really no universal “right time” to get married. However, I do believe that there are some things you and your partner should do before you take the leap into marriage.
Talk About Money
I’m sure you’ve all read the statistic that money is the number 1 culprit for marriages ending in divorce. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the truth. Money is a stressful topic for most people. Even people with endless amounts of money argue about money. So, if you’re thinking about getting married, I would highly suggest talking about finances beforehand. Discuss your spending and saving habits and see where you stand. Are you a spender and he’s a saver? Do you contribute to a 401K and he doesn’t even know what a 401K is? You don’t need to agree on everything, but you do need to have some sort of a common ground if you want to have a successful marriage.
I did an entire blog post on why Matt and I decided to live together (we actually bought a house together) before we got married. Living together is the best way to test your compatibility with each other. You learn so much more when you’re living under the same roof. You learn to compromise, you learn to communicate, you have arguments, etc. All these things are a great test for your marriage. If you can’t get along now, what makes you think it’ll be any better down the road?
Give Each Other Space
I know how relationships can be. You want to spend every waking moment together because you love spending time with that person. That’s great and all, but you need to have time away from each other, whether that be alone time or time spent with friends and family. If you put your entire identity in your partner, you’ll never have a successful relationship.
Discuss Your Values
In order to have a successful relationship, you need to be aligned on your individual values and beliefs such as religion, family dynamics, politics etc. Trust me on this one. I’ve been in a relationship where we had differing beliefs on almost everything and it was the unhealthiest relationship in the world. That’s not to say you can’t disagree at all, it’s just a conversation that needs to happen before you take the next step.
Traveling together is not only super fun, but it also gives you a chance to see how your partner reacts in stressful situations. It’s also a great opportunity to have those deep conversations about your future together. It doesn’t have to be a lavish vacation to Bora Bora. A simple weekend getaway will suffice.
Although these are all important things to do/discuss with your partner before saying “I Do”, I strongly believe that when you know, you know. Ya know?
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