I can’t believe it’s been nearly a month since Matt and I got married! I couldn’t have asked for a more amazing day. It was literally perfect. Everything from the weather to my dress to the food and so on! We got married in Vermont (we live in New Jersey), so it was somewhat of a destination wedding for our guests. I think that made it even more special!
When Matt and I were discussing certain aspects of the wedding, we knew we wanted our ceremony to be short and sweet. But we also wanted it to be very meaningful. So, we decided we would write and read our own vows during the ceremony. I loved the idea of this, however, I was pretty nervous! Despite the butterflies that I had leading up to the big moment, I can happily say that reading our own vows was the best decision we made. So, if you’re thinking about doing the same (and I highly recommend), then keep on reading for some of my best tips and tricks. And for even more tips, be sure to read the blog post I wrote for the site “Advice From A Twenty Something!”
Don’t Try To Include Everything
I know this is something both Matt and I struggled with when we first started writing our vows. It’s understandable because there’s so much love between the two of you and there’s so much you want to say. However, it’s simply impossible to include every single emotion and memory into your vows. And that’s OK.
Make An Outline
I highly recommend making an outline of some sort with all your thoughts and ideas. Anytime you get inspired or think of an awesome memory with your partner, write it down. This will help so much with keeping your ideas organized. It will also be really helpful when you sit down to begin writing your vows because it won’t feel like you’re starting from scratch. Like I mentioned in my first tip, it’s simply impossible to include every memory and emotion into your vows. Creating an outline to work off will certainly help to narrow down your ideas.
Don’t Be Afraid To Get Emotional
This one was big for me. I’m not a big fan of letting my guard down and being emotional in front of people. Certainly not hundreds of people! However, being emotional is 100% normal, especially on your wedding day! Don’t be afraid to include a sentimental memory in fear that you might cry. Just cry! When I was reading my vows to Matt, I was only able to get through the first sentence before I began to tear up. I was so caught up in this amazing moment that I honestly didn’t even care who saw me crying. It was a great feeling!
Make A Nice Copy Of Your Vows
It’s important that you’re able to read your vows clearly on the day of the wedding (duh)! Whether you typed up your vows or wrote them on a crumpled-up piece of paper, I’d highly recommend making fresh copies for the day of. Matt doesn’t have great handwriting, so he printed his vows on nice card stock and made it look all pretty (he totally outdid me). I decided to buy a cute little notebook and write my vows in there. Whatever you decide, it’s nice to have a fresh, readable copy of your vows. It’ll make you feel much more confident.
If you’ve decided to write your own vows, just remember that it’s a moment you will never forget! Don’t stress too much about it. Speak from the heart and everything will fall into place!
Best of luck, friends.
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